I was speaking with a young man the other day regarding a deep personal shame that he revealed to me. Shame is such a big part of the ADHD experience that causes us to internalize a tremendous amount of negative information about ourselves. It is thru sharing with someone, each other that healing can begin. This is the healing power of such places like support forums where a sense of community begins and can be a source of healing.

I would like to go into this topic in more depth but for now I feel this quote is significant in its own right.

“Every time we go to someone we trust with an obsessive feeling of shame, guilt, or regret and get it worked out, or at least worked on, so that it loses some of its tyrannical grip, we are engaged in a healing intimacy. It takes courage to do this. It runs counter to our defensive impulses. It represents the ultimate collapse of the need to justify, to blame, to get even. For we are letting another part of us speak, the part that is in doubt, the part that believes we may be wrong, so wrong that our very worth is thrown into question. But unless that part can be allowed to speak, there can be no healing.”
Robert Karen The Forgiving Self